I didn't come up with this...it came from "The One Minute Manager"(an excellent book for the workplace)...I read it several years ago, but it is working for me with my toddler and my husband.
Catch them doing something wrong...how many times a day do I see and lament the things that they have done wrong? ALL DAY LONG! Whether it is coloring on the walls or not taking out the trash...they are after all human!
I do this little mind game with myself to help stay positive...catch them doing something good...My husband goes to work everyday and works a long day/week so I don't have to...GOOD! My son puts something in the trash that belongs there (not his socks or my scrap of paper with important phone #s) GOOD! They actually do many of these things a day...yeah!
I take it one step further and thank them...this solidifies it in my mind as well as provides positive reinforcement for them. For my son, I ooze with "good job" and "thank-you so much"...for my husband just a quick "thanks" does the trick...try it and let me know how it goes?
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